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Does reframing really work?

Does the act of changing your words change your mind?

A common reframe is going from “I have to” to “I get to.” Does that quick switch of words truly transform your relationship with the thing that you “get” to do and cultivate a sense of true gratitude? More importantly, does that switch create an authentic and lasting transformation?

The key is to shift your belief, not just your words.

I invite you to consider the difference between simply changing your words and transforming your relationship to that thing you want to reframe. The key is to shift your belief, not just your words: I believe that in order for reframing to carry real weight, we have to experience that actual shift. It’s easy to say things we don’t believe. We tell ourselves stories all the time.

The first step is to experience the energy of the challenge and the feelings that go along with it in order to create a shift. If you truly want to transform your relationship to your challenge, sit with it first and explore it from your current position. Then move forward to exploring opportunities for a transformation in your relationship to the challenge. Maybe you’ll discover information that will allow for a felt and authentic reframe of the situation.

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So what if you try to shift your belief and it doesn’t work? There’s an opportunity to further explore that challenge - maybe you’ll discover additional information that can help you find your answers.

Don’t settle for false gratitude; it won’t create space for transformation. Cultivate a sense of true gratitude in order to invite abundance and lasting change in your relationship to the challenge you want to reframe.

P.S. You’re allowed to change your mind later. What works for you now might not work in the future; what you discover now might continue to evolve. It’s all a journey.

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